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How to rewrite your story and change your life
Health + Wellness, Lifestyle, Love, Workshops

Rewrite your story and change your life

When was the last time you took a good hard look at the thoughts you are thinking and beliefs you have (aka the stories you tell yourself about yourself and your life)?

The thing is, we don’t even realize we’re doing it half the time… stuck in negative thinking that just perpetuates those exact thoughts to manifest into our reality.

We really do get to create our lives, but how? It starts with our thoughts. We must have awareness of our thoughts and if they do not serve our highest good, we have to change them.

I recently had a powerful, heart opening session with my life coach, Alma Lara, and found myself in tears during our conversation, pouring my heart out to her about how I’ve gained a few pounds and have been totally overindulging in food and drinks lately, and how frustrated and angry at myself I feel about it. She gave me this powerful task to complete, and I feel more empowered than I have in a very long time.

So, here goes… I’d like to share with you my latest journal entry:

The main story I’ve been telling myself lately is that I’m fat and am becoming slowly addicted to sugar again. That gaining a bit of weight is “bad” (I’ve always viewed it this way) and that consequently I’m doing something wrong (shame and guilt). This story is not serving me and these thoughts are actually causing these things to manifest in my life (sugar addiction and weight gain).

So, it’s time to rewrite my story.

Today and going forward, this is my new story:

I love myself, and therefore I have compassion for myself to realize these are actually my lifelong struggles, not just recent, that have resurfaced since returning from Peru and parting ways with one of the deepest soulmate-loves I have ever had.

I realize now that he was helping fan the flames of my fire… he was the air from above (heart chakra) and the passion and desire from below (sacral chakra) that was keeping my third chakra fire burning bright. I had this effortless get-up-and-go energy for so long, my metabolism was off the charts, my body was lean and strong and I felt like I could literally conquer the world. What a magnificent feeling, being in love… I was motivated everyday, inspired, excited, creating things passionately with this beautiful human. Fuck, who doesn’t like being in that energy?!

It is easy to experience a “loss” of love when a person suddenly goes away.

It takes courage to realize we are love, we can never truly lose it… because we always have ourselves.

Now I must learn to keep my own fire going.

I want to learn to keep my fire going.

I AM learning to keep my fire going… not just going, burning passionately with the action of my will to manifest my deepest desires in this life.

I practice self-compassion with this every single day because I know this is a process of me truly learning this for the very first time.

I embrace and love my body no matter what shape it takes going forward because I nourish it with healthy, wholesome foods, yoga and exercise, and if I’m a bit more curvy, it’s ok. I feel sexy in my curves because I am a beautiful woman whose light radiates from the inside out.

I promise to be gentle on myself going forward, open-minded and willing to experience whatever the Universe provides for me as a container to continue to raise my awareness.

I am beautiful. I am in my power. And my heart is open to give and receive LOVE.

Thank You, Universe.

xo,

Loren

Want to rewrite your story? Come to my next workshop, Empower Yourself! – more info and signup here.

Empower Yourself The Yoga Project Fort Worth

 

 

 

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Deep Roots Flowing Emotions
Health + Wellness, Lifestyle, Workshops, Yoga

Deep Roots & Flowing Emotions

I was so blessed with a beautiful group of humans at my last workshop. As we sat in a circle and went around sharing our intentions for showing up, I couldn’t help but feel an overflow of gratitude in my heart for the vulnerability I was witnessing before my eyes.

There is nothing more powerful than a group of people gathering to learn, share, and grow as individuals. It’s impossible to explain in words the exact energy and positive momentum that was rippled out into the Universe on this special day, but here’s a little recap of what was covered related to the first two chakras.

What is a chakra?

A spinning wheel, or vortex, of energy. Chakras are centers in the body through which life force energy flows. Blocked energy can often lead to illness, so it’s important to understand what each chakra represents and what we can do to keep this energy flowing freely.

Seven Chakras

Where did the chakra system come from?

The chakra system originated in India at the same time as yoga. It’s first mention was in the Vedas, a series of hymns that are the oldest written tradition in India. The chakra system actually came from tantric tradition. Tantra is largely associated with sexual practices in the West, though the sexuality aspect is actually only a small portion of what it’s all about. It does involve sexual practices as it considers the body a sacred temple that houses the inner consciousness and spirit, viewing sexual energy as life force energy that propels us into the higher states of consciousness and growth that we desire as humans. But this is only a sliver of what it’s all about. Hatha and Kundalini yoga are big parts of tantric tradition as well as the worshiping of Hindu deities (especially Hindu goddesses), and the merging of universal forces within (chiefly the interplay of dualistic forces such as dark and light, Heaven and Earth, birth and death, etc).

India Yoga Chakra

There are seven main chakras in the human body. This “Rainbow Bridge” connects our outer and inner worlds – our bodies to our inner temple, the house of our consciousness.

The chakras are vortexes of energy existing in the subtle body that overlays our physical body. They are not actually in our body. You can think of them like gateways, or portals to our inner world, that receive, assimilate and transmit life force energy. We are constantly in energy exchange all day long with everything: food, people, our environment, and ourselves.

Yoga and the chakras go hand in hand, so understanding where the chakras come into play within each yoga pose is vital in bringing a new layer of depth and awareness to your yoga practice.

Strong Body Strong Mind Yoga Chakras

How to bring balance and opening to your first two chakras using yoga:

Root Chakra (survival and groundedness): The base of every pose. Grounding, stability, foundation. Feeling your feet in the ground. Rooted and connected to the Earth at all times. Feeling the strength of your legs that carry you confidently through life. Being courageous enough to slow down and be at home in your body.

Other ways to balance and open your root: Spending time outside in nature, walking barefoot in the grass, resting, eating slowly and mindfully, cooking and cleaning in the home.

Sacral Chakra (emotions, sexuality and creativity): Creative movement and playfulness within your practice. Pleasure and enjoyment of feeling your breath and body move and flow together. Practice embracing all feelings that arise on your mat. Dance with them. Let them flow through you. Hip openers.

Other ways to balance and open your sacral: Dancing, self pleasure, being in or near water (shower, bath, swimming, ocean), drinking plenty of water, practicing emotional release.

Remember, anything you do with INTENTION shifts the energy of your action. When you DIRECT your energy with INTENTION you invite things to MANIFEST in your life. Dance with the INTENTION to relax your hips and feel your emotions flow through you. Walk barefoot outside with the INTENTION to connect deeper to the Earth and bring more grounding into your life.

The chakra workshop series continues…

My next three workshops are currently open for enrollment! Go to my Workshops page to read the juicy details and get signed up.

Can’t wait to see you!

xo,

Loren

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Clear Skin Routine
Health + Wellness, Recipes

Get Clear, Radiant Skin with this Homemade Face Toner

I’ve always had problematic skin… oily and prone to breakouts. It goes way back to high school. Breakouts and acne are one of the toughest things for me. When my face breaks out it affects my confidence level a lot. I just want to hide inside until it goes away!

When I was younger I tried everything to cure breakouts, from the lengthy chemical-filled Proactiv skin care line to doctor prescribed topical gels. None of it ever really worked.

What I have come to realize over the years is clear skin happens from the inside out.

Our skin is the largest organ in our body. It is responsible for eliminating many of the toxins we consume. It’s simple: what goes in, must come out. We either piss it out, shit it out, or sweat it out. Have you ever noticed different smells of your sweat? Pay attention. For example, after a night of wine drinking, my sweat has a very pungent odor (not as pleasant as that clean yummy sweat)! This is also true for eating certain foods. All you have to do is pay attention.

Sweat for Clear Skin

Nutrition

We’ve known for 14 years that a single meal of meat, dairy, and eggs triggers an inflammatory reaction inside the body within hours of consumption (NutritionFacts.org). Consuming animal products and dairy clogs up our intestines and is the hardest food for our bodies to digest and eliminate. If you want your skin to be full of life you need to reduce or eliminate lifeless foods (like dead animal products).

I am all for things in moderation, but if you have problem skin and consume dairy and meat frequently, this is the absolute first place to start. When I stopped eating dairy and meat a few years ago, replacing it with more fruits, veggies, and plant based protein sources (I still occasionally eat pizza and fish) my skin cleared up immediately. I noticed much less breakouts, especially during my cycle, and overall, a more radiant, clear complexion. I encourage you to experiment with eliminating dairy or meat products. It doesn’t have to be all at once, just try one thing at a time. Let it be a process and pay attention to how you feel.

Worried about getting enough protein? Here are 10 amazing plant based protein sources to add into your diet. Sorry people, but it’s a fact: a plant based diet contains much more water (since plants are mostly water) – and our skin needs water to be radiant and glowing! Clear skin is hydrated skin!

Clear Skin Food

Lessening the Toxic Load

Start bringing more awareness to what you ingest and also use topically. This includes medications, supplements, beauty products, shampoo and other hair products. Most mainstream products are loaded with chemicals that actually dry out our skin in the long run (no wonder we keep going back for more). Educate yourself on all the ingredients in what you use and then decide if you want to continue use. For shampoo and conditioner, I switched to Shikai – super mild and very gentle! And here is the one and only delicious hair product I use (coconut and beach smelling, of course) by Herbivore Botanicals (amazing vegan and cruelty free products):

Sea Salt Hair Mist by Herbivore Clear Skin Products

Simple Skin Care Routine

Do not pick! I know you’ve heard it a million times, but it really does make breakouts worse as it spreads bacteria around your face even more. Revamp your skin care regime with a simple routine. Stick to natural, organic and vegan products with the least amount of ingredients possible.

My current routine is this:

  1. Light rinse with Dr. Bronner’s soap (lavender and almond are my faves, but they are all divine)
  2. Homemade ACV face toner (recipe below) applied with cotton ball all over face
  3. Weleda Sensitive Skin Facial Lotion (incredible line of products, all vegan and cruelty free)

Clear Skin Routine for Sensitive Skin

Homemade ACV Face Toner for Clear Skin

Three Simple Ingredients

3 tablespoons Bragg’s Apple Cider Vinegar (a natural astringent that reduces appearance of pimples, age spots, acne scars)

10-12 drops Organic Lavender & Tea Tree Essential Oil (lavender and tea tree oil are known for their powerful disinfecting and anti-inflammatory properties)

3/4 cup WaterMix it all together. I keep mine in a glass on my bathroom counter. Swirl it around before dipping your cotton ball in.

Clear Skin Face Toner

I use the toner in the morning and sometimes in the evening when cleansing my skin.

I swear by this routine! I’ve been doing it for the past three months and my skin is healthier than ever.

All in all, this is really just a practice of awareness and trial and error. Start paying closer attention to your own habits, what you’re putting into your body and on your body. And start drinking more water!

Not only will having clear skin boost your confidence, but you’ll be feeling like a million bucks because you’re taking better care of your inner temple, and that is the most important thing of all.

Would love to hear from you! Drop a comment and make sure to subscribe to my newsletter if you haven’t yet. I’ve got three upcoming workshops I can’t wait to share with you!

 

Much Love,

 

Loren

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Health + Wellness, Workshops, Yoga

Shift Your Energy, Shift Your Life

Ever since I moved to Costa Rica in 2014, where I learned about the chakras, it has become clear to me through working with my own energy the importance of having awareness of this part of ourselves.

Our chakras are the gateways to our inner temple, bridging our outer and inner worlds.

Seven Chakras
They receive, assimilate, and transmit our life force energy on a daily basis. We are in relationship with everything around us – with other people, with our food, with ourselves… this involves constant energy exchange… everything is energy.

Understanding each chakra’s function and how it works can bring a much more integral sense of health and vitality to your life. Learning how to heal yourself is the most valuable thing you can do, for yourself and for everyone around you.

After returning from Peru recently, where I worked even deeper into my emotional and energetic body, I have felt a radical shift as a result of what I learned and now practice daily.

I am so eager to share this with you all so that you, too, can expand your capacity for more love, freedom and personal power in your life.

With that, my intention for this next workshop, “Deep Roots,” is to teach you about your chakras (we’ll focus on the first two), how to work with your energy, and share what has worked for me. I want you to connect deeper to yourself and uncover anything that is holding you back.

I promise to provide a safe and sacred space for you to experience whatever you need to experience, share what you need to share, and leave with some amazing tools to move forward in your life. There is nothing more powerful than a group of individuals standing together in full vulnerability.

Yoga Workshop

This is an investment in the health of your body, your mind, your soul, your heart, and your intuition.

Bring your yoga mat, towel and water as we will have a 30 minute yoga practice (every yoga pose corresponds to a specific chakra so we will flow through a sequence focusing on the first two). Also bring a journal if you have one!

For my loves all around the world: I am working on an online course with this material so you’ll be able to join in soon from anywhere in the world! Drop a comment below and let me know what you think! Make sure to subscribe to my newsletter to stay updated!

Sign up for “Deep Roots” (Fort Worth, TX | May 21st) here!

 

xo,

Loren

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Self Love Rituals For Moms
Health + Wellness, Lifestyle, Mom Life

Seven Self Love Rituals for Busy Moms

We all want our kids to have the absolute best lives possible.

So much so that we often put their needs before our own. I feel you mama, trust me. I get it. And it’s okay. I repeat, it’s okay.

Here’s what happens when we get into a groove of putting others first: when we do have a little time to ourselves, we still end up doing things for others! You feel me? It’s like we don’t know what to do with the alone time, so we end up cleaning, doing laundry, organizing the kids’ rooms, cooking, etc. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we need to use time to ourselves to get these things done, but let me ask you… Did you already take care of you today?

I’ve got a seven day challenge for you. Here are seven simple self love rituals… one for each day of the week. The coolest thing? They only require ten minutes.

I realize how busy your days are, going here and there, doing this and that… it never ends. I literally feel like I’m cleaning up messes all. day. long. What I want you to realize is that you are what is making this entire operation GO! You have got to start putting yourself first, everyday. You will be a better mama because of it, you will love yourself more and, most importantly, you will expand your capacity to give more love to everyone in your life, including your kids (if that’s even possible!)

Seven Self Love Rituals for Busy Moms (in no particular order):

    1. Intention Journaling.

      This would be ideal in the morning, as it can set the tone for your day ahead. Grab a journal and a pen and write down your intention for the day. Beforehand, take a few deep breaths and feel into your heart space. What do you want out of this day? Strength? Compassion? Forgiveness? It could also be a person or relationship that needs some attention. Sometimes it’s just the very basic things that we need, like food and sleep – in this case your intention may be “Keep It Simple.” It could be one word with some doodles around it, or a paragraph of writing, whatever feels authentic to you. Journaling is one of the most powerful ways to manifest what we truly want.

      Self Love Rituals For Moms

    2. Music Meditation

      Choose a song around ten minutes long, sit down and close your eyes. Just breathe and watch your thoughts roll by. The idea is with meditation is not to stop your thinking, but become more aware of the thoughts and become unattached to them. A few of the many benefits of meditation include a self-confidence boost, increased seratonin levels (yes, please!), increased creativity, and improved relationships. Here is a playlist I created on Spotify that is awesome for meditating or yoga practice:

    3. Pillow Screaming.

      Go in your room, get on your bed, and scream into the pillow like there’s no tomorrow. Put on some rager music to really set things off. Anger releasing is a super important ritual. It connects us to our primal instinct, helping release fear and trapped negative emotion in the body. Scream from the pit of your belly – that is where the core of your emotions live. When you’re done with this one, give yourself a couple minutes to just sit with your eyes closed and let it settle. I always get a euphoric rush after doing this and it helps me not lose my shit on my son.

      Self Love Rituals For Moms

    4. Take A Walk

      Being outside is one of the most healing things we can do. Some of the obvious benefits include Vitamin D, eye health, improved sleep, grounding, and exercise. Leave your phone at home and immerse all your senses in nature. See, smell, hear everything around you. Can you taste the clean air? At the end of your walk, kick off your shoes and be barefoot in the grass for a few moments. Hippies have been doing it right all along…

      Self Love Rituals For Moms

    5. Read A Book

      If you don’t like reading actual books, check out audible.com for an incredible selection of audio books. I can’t stress the importance of always learning. Reading is a wonderful way to stimulate our brains to think outside of the box. It also reduces stress, improves vocabulary and increases knowledge, among many other benefits. Get out of your head and into a good book!

      Self Love Rituals For Moms

    6. Self Pleasure

      This one is arguably the most important! When we are connected to our sensuality, we invite more creativity and passion into our lives, which expands our capacity for love, power and freedom. For some ideas on ways to self pleasure head over to my post about how to fall in love with yourself.

    7. Do Absolutely Nothing!

      This one is definitely one of my faves. Pretty self explanatory… seriously, do nothing. Sit on the couch. Stare at the wall. Relax. Notice if this is really hard for you… it means you need to do it more! Giving ourselves adequate rest, especially as busy moms, is of the utmost importance… even if it’s just ten minutes of sitting with no agenda.

Obviously these things are simple to do. The point is making the time.

This means when you have some time to yourself (even if it’s only ten minutes), set the chores aside. Notice your urge to continue doing things for others. It starts with the noticing. Make a conscious decision to change this habit. And then do one of the things listed above.

Make sure to be flexible with the time of day you do the ritual. And on those days you do not have any time for yourself (trust me, I feel you)… shut yourself in your room, lock the door, and do the pillow screaming ritual. Trust me! It works! Even just for five minutes, scream your damn lungs out into that pillow. Pound it with your fists, curse being a mom (we’ve all done it!), whatever you need to do. Release that shit!

Drop a comment below and let me know how your seven day challenge is going! I’d love to hear what practices resonate best with you.

All my love! Reach out for help if you need it. I’m here for you. You’re doing an amazing job, mama!

 

xo,

Loren

 

 

 

 

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Health + Wellness, Lifestyle

The Perfect Body

“True beauty comes from within.” We’ve all heard that shit a million times.

Let’s be honest, we all want to look good in a bikini! But at what cost?

Looking back on my 20s, I was a complete shitshow. I did some awesome things, but the way I felt inside… I absolutely never want to go back.

I used to be so hard on myself. I would spend so much time obsessing over the perfect set of abs that it quite frankly consumed most of my thinking, actions, and daily choices. Gym, what I was eating, what I wasn’t eating… I absolutely hated seeing any fat on my belly. It’s always been the most critical part of my body. When I’d look in the mirror and judge myself, I’d look immediately to my belly as the indicator of success. What a terrible existence and waste of time…

Current statistics show that approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ideal body shape.

Unfortunately, only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by Americans in the media… which is 5’10” and 120 pounds. The National Center for Health Statistics reports the average American woman as 5’4” and 169 pounds. (DoSomething.org)

Simply put, we are being setup for low self esteem, eating disorders, and overall unhappiness as women in this society.

I am 5′ 10″ and about 150 pounds. I realize I have been blessed with genes that gave me a long, lean figure but that doesn’t mean I haven’t had a messed up body image most of my life. I used to be obsessed with weighing around 125 and was bulimic for about two years in my 20s.

All I can say is, God I love 30. It’s the feeling. Maybe it’s just the years that have passed and the experience gained. Maybe it’s having carried a child and seeing my belly stretch huger than I ever imagined it could. Maybe it’s my rebellion against society and all the sick bullshit that’s projected to us on a daily basis. Maybe I’m just tired of women being portrayed as not good enough.

Whatever it is, I love it. Since grounding back home after my Peru trip, I’ve gained some belly fat and whole lot more confidence at the same time… Interesting, right? In my 20s I would have been purging my food at the sight of this perceived disaster.

The truth is, no matter your age, a rock hard set of abs does not equal happiness.

It may be a byproduct of what makes your soul happy (exercise), but getting your body to match an insane ideal of beauty as projected by society is never going to make you happy.

True happiness is within your soul. It’s a feeling. A feeling of balance… of softness… that comes with relaxing into life, letting go of what society tells you you should be doing, looking, saying, acting, and LIVING.

Imagine how much you could do with the energy you use obsessing over your body! Just take a moment and really let that sink in.

Eat foods that nourish your body and soul. Sit down to eat. TASTE your food. Eat slowly, let it be a sensual, pleasure filled experience. And remember that true happiness comes from listening to the calling of your spirit. Go within. Love yourself exactly how you are. You are beautiful and perfect. I see you. And your belly is SEXY!

 

xo,

Loren

 

 

Manduka yoga mat home practice
Health + Wellness, Lifestyle, My Favorite Things, Yoga

The best yoga gear & how to start a home practice

Why would you practice at home when you can go to a studio? What are the benefits of practicing at home? Where do we start?

Practicing in a heated studio is always great… there’s nothing like being led through a sequence, feeling the group energy, and getting a total body workout. But what if you could reap these same benefits at home? What about the days you just don’t have two hours to do the whole process of going to a studio to practice? What if you could create a special space in your own home where you could gain these same benefits in just 20 minutes? Well, guess what? You can.

I’ve been practicing vinyasa yoga since 2009 and teaching since 2010. Here is what I’ve learned about home practice: it takes commitment and discipline, but the benefits are huge. Follow these simple steps to set yourself up for success and carve a path to creating a mini yoga sanctuary in the comfort of your own home.

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The Benefits

  1. It can be short and sweet. Or it can be long and strong. For so long, I used to avoid home practice because in my mind I thought I “had” to do a full hour or 75 minutes. I’ve learned to let go of that. Sometimes my home practice is a simple 15 or 20 minutes. It might be a relaxed, yin style practice with no music, or it may be a jam packed 20 minute session of powerful sun salutations, arm balances and inversions with some kickass beats blasting. Regardless of what you do, the point is that you carve out the time and do it. Try to let go of expectations or judgments around what you do on your mat. Not only will you feel good physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually too.
  2. New creativity arises. Without the guidance of an instructor, your practice becomes a work of art as you connect with stillness and hold space for yourself. I promise you will be surprised and delighted at the movement your body makes all on its own. Just let your breath be the guide.
  3. Mindfulness practice. You may choose to just sit and breathe and do a few simple postures. Or you may kill it with a strong sequence. The cool thing is you get to check in with what your body needs that day. The idea is to simply set aside some time for yourself, to be with yourself, meet yourself right where you are, enjoy your breath and body, and get centered. Yoga is a moving meditation practice!
  4. Gain confidence and connect with your intuition. When you take the time on your own to sit and listen to your inner voice, a whole world of possibility opens up as you allow this voice to guide you.

Loren Boyd Home Yoga Practice

What to do:

  1. Create a sacred practice space. It can be inside or outside, depending on the season. I love practicing outside in the summertime. On a hot day it can feel exactly like being in a heated studio. Wherever it is, make this place somewhere you want to go. Place things nearby on a mini altar like candles, mala beads, incense, oils, crystals, a vision board, photographs… whatever inspires you. Get a space heater to recreate the hot studio atmosphere and work up a good sweat!
  2. Get a good yoga mat and blocks and a strap. Manduka products are my favorite:
  3. Set a realistic goal for yourself. I like to do a combination of studio practice and home practice. I shoot for five practices/week. Usually two or three of them are at home and anywhere from 15-45 minutes long.
  4. Roll out your mat, put on some music (or not), and go! Give yourself the first couple minutes in a simple seated posture, child’s pose, or down dog to just practice breath awareness. Simply place attention on your breath and allow yourself to shift from the mindstuff to the simple experience of feeling your breath and body on your mat. This is what brings you to the present moment. The movement will come naturally and your body will do what it needs to do once you connect with breath and body sensation. If you don’t know what to do, throw on a YouTube video! There are also some great subscriptions you can get through Gaia and also oneOeight with tons of awesome teachers, different styles of yoga and free trials. Also check out the free podcast collection from The Yoga Project where I teach!

The more you practice, no matter what length of time you spend on your mat, the more connected you will be to your inner voice… the easier it will be to hear it on a regular basis. Yoga is simply a mindfulness practice. When you get into what you are doing – and take it back to the basics – concrete breath and body sensation – you allow yourself to slow down and awaken to your inner knowing. Then you really start to dance with life.

The more you do it, the easier it gets.

You will discover a new rhythm on your mat practicing at home vs. practicing in a studio. Keep at it long enough to really allow yourself to feel the benefits.

Please comment below with any questions, I am here to help you!

Make sure to subscribe to my blog for more inbox inspiration, workshop offerings and tips on how to live a healthy, vibrant life!

-Loren

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Self Love Rituals For Moms Self Pleasure
Health + Wellness

Self pleasure: How to fall in love with yourself

When I teach yoga, I find myself constantly reminding my students to enjoy their practice, to find pleasure in feeling their bodies move and breathe, to literally revel in what it feels like to be alive.

Practicing yoga can be an incredibly sensual experience. This is one way I fall in love with myself on a daily basis. Before I get to the delicious list I’ve created for you, let’s touch on the topic of self love, and, more specifically, self pleasure…

We are sexual, sensual beings.

Our sexuality is the root of our creative energy… it is pure life force energy, and it is the most healing thing that exists in the Universe.

Emotional eating, eating disorders and drug and alcohol addiction all stem from an imbalance of sexual energy – I can tell you from experiencing all of the above firsthand that self pleasure and starting a healthy habit of masturbation and sensual practices greatly balances addictions of all kinds, because pleasure is the precise energy we are dealing with here. We want to feel good. That’s a given. When our physical, sexual, sensual needs are not met, we look elsewhere to feel pleasure.

So, why is masturbation such a taboo?

As you read this, I want you to stay very aware of how you feel. If any of this makes you uncomfortable at any moment, get curious about it – without judging yourself. Notice any physical or emotional reactions as you read. Be curious about any shame or guilt you have around these subjects. It’s ok. We were raised in a society that does not encourage these practices… they are seen as taboo and this is why, collectively, we have built a huge mountain of guilt and shame in our beings. After all, how many of us were actually taught a healthy perspective on masturbation from the time we were young?

This energy is stuck and wants to get out. Not only does it want to move and be free – it is your greatest spiritual teacher and wants to help you become your highest self.

Whether you are currently in a relationship or not not does not matter when it comes to self pleasure.

If you have a partner, your relationship will evolve to a new level of intimacy. When you get used to pleasuring yourself, you learn exactly what you like and how you like it. You develop a new level of confidence that will spill over into your relationship and eliminate your “need” for the other person. If you do not have a partner currently, you will naturally attract the mate you have been dreaming of by falling in love with yourself.

Only when you can understand and pleasure yourself fully can you accept the same pleasure from another human in a healthy way… a way free of attachment, clingyness, and neediness. You do not need another person to complete you. You are already complete.

Self Pleasure 101

  1. The God-Goddess within you | Firstly, understand that we all have divine feminine and masculine energy within us. These two forces work together to create wholeness in our being. Your perceptions of the perfect partner are just reflections of this energy inside you, like a mirror.  Therefore, what you want is already within you! Recognize this energy in yourself. Instead of fantasizing about another person (which can also be a yummy practice, don’t get me wrong!), imagine this person as yourself, imagine you are wildly attracted to yourself as this partner. This is a simple visualization practice. It’s great for before or during self touch.
  2. Dancing | A perfect way to loosen up your body and release tension. Put on your favorite music. Try dancing naked, do a sexy striptease for yourself, even in front of a mirror, so you can see yourself and marvel at your beautiful body. Run your fingers all over yourself while you dance. Feel your sacred energy move with the music.
  3. Sensual self pleasure & masturbation | Make time for self pleasure practice just like you would anything else, like scheduling a meeting or going to the gym. Make your bedroom a sacred space. Turn off your phone. Light candles. Incense. Music. However you like to set the mood. Set it for yourself, as if you were preparing for your lover… because you are – you are your ultimate lover. This does not even have to involve penetration of any kind – simply touch and caress yourself all over like a lover. Feel your skin. Touch your genitals. Breathe deeply and rock your pelvis. Get into a rhythm with your breath that supports the release of tension and energy from your emotional body. Imagine your divine feminine and masculine energy there as the ultimate god and goddess to make love to. Imagine yourself as this energy. You may or may not decide to add toys into the mix, I suggest trying both ways. Practice waiting to climax. Bring yourself to the brink three times before letting it happen.
  4. Make your shower or bath a sensual experience every time | Whether it’s five minutes or thirty minutes, take advantage of the time being naked. Feel the water pour over your skin, take deep breaths, touch yourself. This is a wonderful and simple mindfulness practice that is full of opportunity to give yourself some much needed love.
  5. Awaken to pleasure in your yoga practice | Pay attention to details as you move on your mat. Go slow. Let your breath guide you through compassion and forgiveness of any ill feelings or judgments of yourself. Often times, I find myself making sounds as I exhale because it literally feels so damn good! Pay attention to the release happening, and invite more of it in. Notice moments when you find yourself being too serious (we all do it!) – consciously relax the muscles in your face, relax your shoulders, and remember – it’s just yoga. You’re there to feel good! Approach your practice as a time to play and explore, in the same way you would with a lover.

Allow this to be a process, like everything else.

These practices might feel weird or awkward at first. It’s ok. Stay committed. You will be surprised at what happens in a very short amount of time. Take it slow and be gentle on yourself.

After years of collectively suppressing our divine feminine, know she may be slow to come back around, maybe even angry. Allow yourself to explore all the emotions that arise. By starting with you and shifting your own vibration through self pleasure, you will begin to heal your own emotional body, naturally attract a partner and be part of the collective shift in consciousness and healing on the planet.

When the time comes to share your sexuality with another person, they will not be filling a void for you, they simply complement the self awareness you already exude and bring a new level to it as your two souls merge to create a special, third union… sex is and should always be a sacred, intentional practice.

Plus, the more you fall in love with yourself, the more confidence you will have in yourself, and the less you will give a shit what other people think about you. Insecurity stems directly from lack of self love.

So touch yourself. Let your wild inner god and goddess come out to play. Don’t hold back. Surrender to the healing opportunity present in loving yourself exactly as you are right now. You are perfect.

Have a pleasure filled weekend!

-Loren

As I prepare for Peru and ISTA Level One Training, I have been reading this book as recommended reading for the workshop and have been greatly inspired by its content – the above which I am sharing with you is simply my version of processing this information and the experience I have had putting its suggested practices into effect. I highly recommend this book to any individual or couple seeking greater levels of intimacy and sexual healing:

Peru
Health + Wellness, Travel

Mom Life, Guilt & Peru

Being a mom is the most incredible thing ever.

It is most definitely the greatest love I have ever felt. But it is also the hardest thing I have ever attempted.

I’m not just talking about hard in the little day to day aspects, like food and toy messes 24/7, whining, and having to literally sit on my child to brush his teeth (first world problems, I know). That stuff isn’t really a big deal.

The hardest thing about being a mom revolves around guilt.

I am a single mom and I work from home. I constantly wonder, “Am I working too much? Am I spending enough quality time with my son? Am I feeding him the right foods? Am I giving him the best life I possibly can?”

If you are a parent, I’m sure you relate. We all want what’s best for our kids and we beat ourselves up way too often. After all, we’re doing the best we can. Or, are we?

I have always struggled with doing things for myself.

I find a lot of joy in helping people and doing things for others… so much that I have in the past let it tip the scales so out of balance that I would completely neglect myself and withdraw from my own emotions. This constant doing for others was also a way I would run away from myself and those icky feelings that I didn’t want to deal with. Eventually I wound up a pill popping, addicted mess and the only way out was to make a radical change.

That’s when I packed two suitcases and left Seattle to decompress for six months in Costa Rica… the best decision I’ve ever made in my life.

Not only did I become a mother as a result of this decision, but I began to truly notice the feelings of guilt, shame, and fear that had built up in my soul over the years. As my awareness grew, so did my desire to learn more. It was time to start working through this shit.

When my dear friend Brent (Soul Guru) told me about ISTA over a year ago, I remember thinking, “Wow, that sounds amazing. I would love to do that… but there is no way in hell I could leave my toddler and go take a trip to Peru.”

As time passed, I started thinking about this more… I noticed how much guilt I felt at the mere THOUGHT of leaving Julian for a couple weeks. More time passed, and I got to a point recently (around the first of the year) where my inner voice was speaking to me loud and clear. I realized I needed to take this trip. I needed to do it for myself. I needed to trust my inner voice and what the Universe was saying to me.

“Go. Go. Go. Be free.”

I realized the transformational journey involved in this trip is going to open my heart, help me live more authentically, and help me connect with my highest self, and as a result I will be a better mother to my son. This is me putting myself first. As strong as I feel the guilt knocking at the door, I will not let it in. This trip represents my ultimate expression of self love.

Guilt is a mother fucker.

It just seems to creep in from out of no where and ruin a perfectly perfect situation. It has no respect for the present moment and absolutely no consideration for our feelings.

It’s time to release this. I am giving myself permission to explore the deepest, darkest, depths of my soul at ISTA and release years of built up guilt, shame and fear that are holding me back from living 100% authentically.

A lot of the work has already been done, and this is the next chapter.

After the ISTA Level One training, Brent and I are going to hike Macchu Picchu and let all of our self work process as we walk upon sacred land.

It is my pleasure to share with you my intention for this Peru trip, taking place in March:

1. ISTA: To work through years of built up guilt, shame, fear, and release it. To cultivate a deeper level of intimacy with myself and my sexuality so that I can live from a place of true authenticity and fully step into my power. As a result of creating new space in my body, I invite my own personal yoga philosophy to emerge. With an open heart, I invite deeper levels of friendship to come into my life. I allow my career to flourish in new ways as a result of new waves of creative energy emerging in my being. I invite myself to connect to this deep seated creativity on a daily basis. It’s time to move the bullshit out of the way and feel my soul explode into the truest expression of myself that the Universe intended.

2. Macchu Picchu: To immerse myself in a sacred vortex of energy… to walk and process all the emotions that were released at ISTA. I invite my soul to experience the vast and sheer beauty of Mother Nature, to move my body and feel the physical release of emotions and energy as my being renews itself before returning home.

With that, I encourage you…

If there is something you want to do – DO IT. DO NOT HOLD BACK. What does your soul want? What is your inner voice saying? Are you listening? If you suppress this you are breeding more guilt, shame and fear in your being.

When you start listening and truly honoring your heart’s desire, you will see that everything falls into alignment naturally, seemlessly. Opportunities start coming out of the woodwork. Beautiful new relationships emerge.

Is there something you feel called to do? Are you denying this? Get curious about these things. Take out your journal. Write. Get quiet and really listen and feel what your body and soul want.

Thank you so much for reading and listening. Drop a comment below if you feel called to, and feel free to ask me any questions! When we are vulnerable and share with each other, magical things happen. The time is NOW to connect with yourself and your loved ones at a deeper level. Love is the only real truth there is.

Gratitude and good vibes,

Loren

 

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Happy New Year! Set your intentions
Health + Wellness, Mindfulness, The MALA Shop, Workshops, Yoga

Happy New Year! Set your intentions…

Happy New Year 2017! This is a special and crucial time to set your intentions for what you want to manifest this year. It’s time to truly step into your personal power!

Have you taken the time to get still and listen for your heart’s desire? What do you want to happen this year?

Whether you have written down your intentions or not, I have a perfect opportunity for you to visualize your goals for the year.

Join me this Sunday, January 8th for my upcoming workshop: Vision Boards, Vinyasa & Vino!

Happy New Year! Set Your Intentions

 

A vision board is an inspiring collage of magazine cutouts – words and photos symbolizing your goals and intentions.

In addition to it being a fun and creative experience, your board will become a tool in manifesting your dreams for 2017.

In this workshop, we will spend the first hour creating vision boards, with music playing and dancing encouraged! Then we’ll roll out our mats and flow for 30 minutes to set our intentions in motion. The last half hour we will share our boards with each other over a glass of wine! Sharing is a crucial part of manifesting – you have to say it out loud and let others uphold your vision!

Come set the new year in motion with me! All levels welcome, materials and wine provided!

I will also have all my handmade mala beads for sale at the workshop. Malas make great tools for mindfulness, holding your intentions and reminding you of your heart’s desire.
Learn more about malas here and see what’s in The MALA Shop!

Join me this Sunday!
Location: The Yoga Project Fort Worth
Date: Sunday January 8th, 2017, 2-4pm
Cost: $30 (15% off for TYP members!)

CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!

Lastly, enjoy this awesome New Year’s Meditation by Soul Guru – Brent Hruska. Take these 15 simple minutes to connect to your breath, body, and get clear on your intention for this year!

Blessings, Love and Light in the new year!

-Loren